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    The culture of dating today is a phenomenon. I've heard too many times recently "dating is so difficult today" and "I hate dating. It's so complicated." In the age of texting and social media, yeah.. I'd have to agree that dating has become a complicated thing. We get to hide behind our screens rather than be vulnerable and approach the person of interest. I don't truly know the biblical view of dating but I can guarantee that it isn't what it looks like today.
   A few months ago, the young adults group I am in on Thursdays, talked about dating. The guys came up with answers to questions that were asked and the girls did as well. We came back together as a group and shared those with one another and the overwhelming consensus was "don't play games and be straight forward". Yet, we still find that hard to do today, as a whole (I'm not speaking about my group necessarily, but we do fall into the demographic).
   It's so much easier to hide behind a screen and like someone's stuff but never actually talk to them. It's so much easier to send texts but not actually hang out in person. It's so much easier to observe multiple people at once (again, on social media) and pick and choose rather than pursue one person. It's so much easier to face rejection through a screen and disappear than it is to ask outright and be prepared for whatever the answer is.
   Why is this the case? Where along the way did we decide to stop pursuing/being pursued and resort to the "easy" way of doing things? I am a strong, God-fearing, fairly independent woman but I want to be pursued. I have a tender heart and a desire to be loved and cared for. I want to get to know the guy and be friends and not rely on social media to let me "guess" if he likes me by the posts that are/aren't liked. ARE you kidding me?! I had a conversation with a couple of friends recently and one was sharing about a similar situation and the other said "Why on earth would liking posts be the standard?? A man is going to pursue and not play games and social media should NEVER be a standard". When texting or social media becomes the standard, we then begin to write narratives for things that aren't even things.

    So here's my challenge to guys and girls.

Guys: if you're interested, observe her with her friends and in the circles you're in together. See how she interacts with others, find out things about her and remember them. Interact. Be bold and ask face to face.
Girls: we're not out of this. Don't lead on a guy if you're not interested in that way. Allow yourself to be pursued (looks different for different people- I mean the first guy that ever asked me out had a full outline prepared lol). Anyway, we can be equal offenders in these situations.
Both: don't play the social media game. We're adults now. High school is over.
 
Date with purpose.

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