Please stop asking when we're going to get married.


   Let me preface what I am about to type with these two things: My parents are not offenders and if I step on toes, I want to apologize in advance because that's not my intent.

       "Please, stop asking when we're going to get married". The "we" here is not me and a boy (yet) but rather it is my generation. I know there are a lot of issues with my generation, but I'm not addressing those in this post. I am strictly going to be addressing one topic and one topic only.
Here we go:)
     My parents have been so so good in this area of life for my siblings and me. Obviously, I am the most prevalent, being 24 and the oldest. Would they love some grandkids? No doubt. Would I like to married (eventually)? YEP, sure would. But they never ask me "So, when are you going to find a man?" or "when are you going to get married?" Because A. They know that a relationship is not what completes me, but Christ is. and B. They don't ever want me to settle just to have answers to those questions- they want me to find the RIGHT man that God has for me. This has been a game-changer for me because I don't dread attending family gatherings and people asking me those questions like some of my friends do.
    Here's my plea (especially for Christian parents): Don't push your kids to settle for someone who is less than who the Lord has for them. If we want to battle against the darkness this world continues to be covered in, then there needs to be a better view on what it means to marry exactly who is intended for them and not just because. We will see stronger relationships, marriages that might last longer, and ones that are founded and continue to be strengthened on the foundations of Who Christ is.

    I don't know who this effects. I don't know who has been guilty of putting the "necessity" of being in a relationship or married before the necessity of being strong in Christ and then finding someone out of that.. but maybe this post will help. Maybe the language will change to "Any good godly men on the horizon?" and if not then pray. Pray that godly men and women would rise up and that your child might be one of them. What might your life have looked like if this was the mentality that was encouraged when you were younger?
  Cultivate and Encourage my generation to not settle. We need that support because we struggle and that's obvious.

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