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            10 Tips for handling a blindsided break up with as much Grace as possible... Pt. 2

11. Get Plugged in. Find friends, whether they are new or old, and invest. We were created for relationships/community and without it, we are cutting ourselves off from a life source. Jump in with two feet and don't look back. Find a good community with people that are safe and will lift you up. Don't be afraid to open up to them and let them in. Let them help you keep your heart from hardening.

12. Do NOT compare. Don't look at a picture of the person or hear how they are doing and compare where you think they are (or where they really are) to where you are, good or bad. Comparison destroys. You are working on you now. You are growing and working on changing the yucky things in your own life around and the Lord is going to work on you in his timing. And he is going to work on their life in his timing as well. Do not compare your process because it is solely yours and when we begin to compare, especially when they look like they're already healed and happy, we think, "what's wrong with me? Why am I not as far along?" Just don't do it. As I said previously, take each day and let the Lord heal you in His timing.

13. Pray for them. This is one of the hardest things to do because you should specifically pray for the other person. Not a hopeful prayer of restoration but a hopeful prayer that the Lord would heal and grow them as well. One of the hardest things to do is pray for someone who has wronged you or hurt you in a relationship. "They don't deserve those prayers". But they do. And as a believer, it is our responsibility to lift up others in prayer. Ask your community or mutual friends to lift up the other person in prayer too. There are strength in numbers.


     All three of these things I've jumped on board with. They aren't easy but God is so faithful to bring the right people into our lives at the right time, to remind us that he gives and takes away, and that sometimes the only thing we can do is pray... not only for our own hurting hearts but for the person on the other end who is (or will in time) dealing with their own stuff.

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