Ash & Evergreens

    The culture of dating today is a phenomenon. I've heard too many times recently "dating is so difficult today" and "I hate dating. It's so complicated." In the age of texting and social media, yeah.. I'd have to agree that dating has become a complicated thing. We get to hide behind our screens rather than be vulnerable and approach the person of interest. I don't truly know the biblical view of dating but I can guarantee that it isn't what it looks like today.    A few months ago, the young adults group I am in on Thursdays, talked about dating. The guys came up with answers to questions that were asked and the girls did as well. We came back together as a group and shared those with one another and the overwhelming consensus was "don't play games and be straight forward". Yet, we still find that hard to do today, as a whole (I'm not speaking about my group necessarily, but we do fall into the demographic).    It's s...

   Let me preface what I am about to type with these two things: My parents are not offenders and if I step on toes, I want to apologize in advance because that's not my intent.        "Please, stop asking when we're going to get married". The "we" here is not me and a boy (yet) but rather it is my generation. I know there are a lot of issues with my generation, but I'm not addressing those in this post. I am strictly going to be addressing one topic and one topic only. Here we go:)      My parents have been so so good in this area of life for my siblings and me. Obviously, I am the most prevalent, being 24 and the oldest. Would they love some grandkids? No doubt. Would I like to married (eventually)? YEP, sure would. But they never ask me "So, when are you going to find a man?" or "when are you going to get married?" Because A. They know that a relationship is not what completes me, but Christ is. and B. They don't ever want...

    The Alex May today is not the same Alex May from one year ago. I think back on this past year and all that the Lord has done. All that He's taught me and shown me. All the pains and joys. So in thinking upon these things, I've decided to create a list of what the Lord has taught me over this past year- I hope it's an encouragement to you. 1 . Find Community . A year ago, I was getting my boxes I had moved up to Chicago and bringing them back to the Boro. I was hurting and had some really hard conversations. I was a mess. But one year ago, a new season also began. I found a church home, I jumped into a small group where I knew no one, I served for UNITE (a church event...and knew no one), I started serving in the nursery at 8:20am... and knew no one. BUT through the course of jumping in blindly, I began to know people. Those people loved me and brought me in. They connected me and listened. The Lord used them to help me heal. Find Community- but not just any community....