Commitment Shamitment

    One of the things I've realized more and more lately is just how much my generation has an aversion to commitment. I read things all the time that shout "commitment shamitment!" Rather than talking to someone about our concerns or voicing our opinions, if something is going wrong or could be better, we walk away. That thing or that person is not giving us what we want so instead of trying to figure out a solution, we just leave. We leave and look for something or someone better.
   Granted, there are plenty of situations where something or someone is not the right fit and that's totally great but I think so much heartache, loneliness, and frustration could be saved if we would just power through and communicate sometimes rather than just talk all around it yet do nothing about it or just leave.
   It's also a huge reason why dating/relationships seems to be so difficult for my generation. (again, sometimes not the right fit or situation) but we have the inability/the fear of committing to someone and thus we are always waiting for something better to come along or fear we're missing out on other people if we commit. And if we do commit to them and things aren't going well or they keep hurting you, unintentionally, we bottle it up and then walk away... but how much of it could have been salvaged if we would have just talked it through or brought it up? Especially if you love that person, eyes can be opened and hearts/actions can be changed.
   See commitment takes hard work and loyalty. Commitment to a job, commitment to a person, commitment to a group, commitment to going to church. It isn't always instant gratification, sometimes it's the long-suffering that has the most beautiful outcomes. Good relationships, great churches, and the foundations of empires weren't built because it got too hard or people weren't getting their way but they were/are built by people committing to see it through till completion and communicating through the good times and the bad times.

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